Saturday, June 27, 2009
What is it?
What is it about a time frame/deadline/boundary? If I have nothing to do, or no pressure, things go smoothly. Tuesday's at 6pm, my son is due to be at church for Royal Rangers, Wednesdays at 7pm- me and the kids are due at church for Missionettes and Rainbows. This Friday, we were due at church for Ben to go on his campout by 4pm. Yet, it never fails SOMETHING always happens. We are ALWAYS late! We had a car full of cement pavers, rather then drive across town with this load-while I was finalizing Ben's packing for the camping trip-I asked David to remove the pavers. At the time I had asked he was sorting socks, Ben was low and I wanted him to have an extra couple pair. I had to have Ben at church in an hour-it's a 25 minute drive. Many minutes (15 or so) went by, no David. I had originally thought he was just getting socks and shoes on, etc. I called to the other room..."David, what are you doing?"..."socks", he said. I said, " I need pavers removed, you already gave me 10 pairs of socks (only needed a couple), I need to go". He thought I didn't need to be there til 630pm, so he just thought he'd do it later. (My thinking was, you can do socks when I'm not here, you can't remove bricks if they aren't here). So I checked the time, it was 330pm. EEEEK. I said never mind, I gotta go now...He insisted on doing it. So then I couldn't get Ben to church on time for him to ride the church van out there, I'd have to drive him to Lake Afton myself. Well, I wasn't prepared to take everyone out to Lake Afton...so then I had to gather swim suits, towels, snacks, extra clothes, bug spray, sunblock, etc. for me and the little ones. (might as well stay and hang out and enjoy a couple hours if we're gonna drive all the way out there right?) Then I get a message from our community representative with the exchange student program, saying she was missing one of the papers (we had had our in-home interview Friday morning)...so I scanned and tried to send that "real quick", it scanned in 4 pieces and I don't know how to "stitch" items together. So, did it with another program, but when she tried to print it, it was too blurry! Besides all that, I had made plans to run errands after driving Ben to church at 4pm, so that all now got pushed back. I ended up being 4 hours late for the camp out! Seriously, if I had had nothing pressing to do...NONE of the issues would have surfaced! Every Tuesday and Wednesday, nearly without fail...SOMETHING happens!!!!!! Whether it be I get stuck in construction, traffic, accident, kids get hurt, something goes wrong with the car, Ben forgets his bag, a dog gets out and we have to find them before we leave, one or BOTH of the little ones have to "potty", a kid I pick up is running late, or a parent gets chatty, an errand runs longer then expected, etc. I tell ya. I just don't get it!!!!!!!!!!!
Thursday, June 25, 2009
June 24, 2009
So I really miss blogging! I will continue to back blog...but I'm going to start keeping up with my blog as much as I can-hopefully a nearly daily basis.
Today is June 24th, we woke up later then usual-930am (I'm not complaining, being is we are 2nd shifters, this is a great time, but my kids don't like to sleep once the sun is up-GRRRR, lol.) We had our 2nd to last Family Support Specialist appointment today at 1030a. The family support specialist is the "counselor" we've been working with for the year that we've been in Marriage for Keeps. I gave her a wedding invitation-only fitting as she's been such an intricate part of out growing, and healing process I figured-but she told me since she's a counselor, she can't come. :( I was in tears. I mean I understand why...mentally, but emotionally, I was heart broken. I asked if I could appeal to her bosses or something. She said they had a meeting later today and she'd talk to them about it. :( We have one more appointment...July 8th...It's been one year in the program! David and I have come such a long way. Mostly I feel DAVID has come a long way. I was telling Jamie today (our FSS), a year ago, it was like I was living with a mannequin, or another kid. Today, I feel like I have a friend, a partner. He gets, NOW, that I want to hear his opinions and thoughts and he communicates with me. I did not go into Marriage for Keeps, thinking anything was "wrong" with me, I went thinking it was all him and "he needed to learn to communicate". Boy was I wrong. I've learned so much. They don't teach you this stuff in school or growing up. How do you get a generation (our parents') where "kids are to be seen and not heard"- to teach communication skills? My communication consisted of doing doing doing, until I blow up. You aren't "taught" the "speaker/listener technique" or about "doing your part". I just am so grateful to God for sending MFK and Fireproof to us and for Chris and Bonnie taking us to "our new church". There are so many blessings in my life right now. I don't even know where to start counting!
Anyway, David has to work 6p-6a for the next few days, so we ended up going to Walmart after our appointment. We bought some shelving for the house and Ben a new Bike-an ADULT bike (26 inch) with hand brakes!!!!! and a new helmet. When we got home, kids ate and napped, I wasted all my time on the computer and David got ready for his "excercise" (it's where they practice war situations, which is why he's on 12 hour night shifts thru Sunday). Ben played on daddy's puter. Then the kids woke up and had ice cream for with chocolate "Magic Shell" for snack. After David left for work, I set up the kids' turtle pool with water and got the sprinkler going. While they played (and Ben worked on cleaning his room), I stamped wedding invitations. After I was done and ready to go, we rode our bikes around base-hand delivered 4 invites (got adult conversation with a couple of my friends I delivered too! That was a bonus!!!! My friend Mike is back from the desert and they bought a new car-Jeep, sweet!) and put 60 in the mailbox at the front of the base (we live in back of the base). Then, came home, baths, bed and Ben and I assembled a shelving unit, and set it up in his room and cleaned his room. AHHHH, it looks great (I am hoping to get to the "Bionicle boxes" one of these days and sort them into smaller stackable containers)! Some day I will get my house in order, really I will! LOL I then put away our Walmart trip and stamped and assembled more invites and blogged a bunch and now I'm headed to bed!
Today is June 24th, we woke up later then usual-930am (I'm not complaining, being is we are 2nd shifters, this is a great time, but my kids don't like to sleep once the sun is up-GRRRR, lol.) We had our 2nd to last Family Support Specialist appointment today at 1030a. The family support specialist is the "counselor" we've been working with for the year that we've been in Marriage for Keeps. I gave her a wedding invitation-only fitting as she's been such an intricate part of out growing, and healing process I figured-but she told me since she's a counselor, she can't come. :( I was in tears. I mean I understand why...mentally, but emotionally, I was heart broken. I asked if I could appeal to her bosses or something. She said they had a meeting later today and she'd talk to them about it. :( We have one more appointment...July 8th...It's been one year in the program! David and I have come such a long way. Mostly I feel DAVID has come a long way. I was telling Jamie today (our FSS), a year ago, it was like I was living with a mannequin, or another kid. Today, I feel like I have a friend, a partner. He gets, NOW, that I want to hear his opinions and thoughts and he communicates with me. I did not go into Marriage for Keeps, thinking anything was "wrong" with me, I went thinking it was all him and "he needed to learn to communicate". Boy was I wrong. I've learned so much. They don't teach you this stuff in school or growing up. How do you get a generation (our parents') where "kids are to be seen and not heard"- to teach communication skills? My communication consisted of doing doing doing, until I blow up. You aren't "taught" the "speaker/listener technique" or about "doing your part". I just am so grateful to God for sending MFK and Fireproof to us and for Chris and Bonnie taking us to "our new church". There are so many blessings in my life right now. I don't even know where to start counting!
Anyway, David has to work 6p-6a for the next few days, so we ended up going to Walmart after our appointment. We bought some shelving for the house and Ben a new Bike-an ADULT bike (26 inch) with hand brakes!!!!! and a new helmet. When we got home, kids ate and napped, I wasted all my time on the computer and David got ready for his "excercise" (it's where they practice war situations, which is why he's on 12 hour night shifts thru Sunday). Ben played on daddy's puter. Then the kids woke up and had ice cream for with chocolate "Magic Shell" for snack. After David left for work, I set up the kids' turtle pool with water and got the sprinkler going. While they played (and Ben worked on cleaning his room), I stamped wedding invitations. After I was done and ready to go, we rode our bikes around base-hand delivered 4 invites (got adult conversation with a couple of my friends I delivered too! That was a bonus!!!! My friend Mike is back from the desert and they bought a new car-Jeep, sweet!) and put 60 in the mailbox at the front of the base (we live in back of the base). Then, came home, baths, bed and Ben and I assembled a shelving unit, and set it up in his room and cleaned his room. AHHHH, it looks great (I am hoping to get to the "Bionicle boxes" one of these days and sort them into smaller stackable containers)! Some day I will get my house in order, really I will! LOL I then put away our Walmart trip and stamped and assembled more invites and blogged a bunch and now I'm headed to bed!
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