Okay, so I have been stood up by 2 clients in a week!!!!
The first one I understand. We were in contact, she was interested in me being her childcare provider, I delivered her the contracts and forms on Monday night, if she agreed, she'd see me on Tuesday afternoon. Well...no show. I can understand that, cause she hadn't seen my contract and there's a religious clause in it. I don't know for sure that was the reason, I can certainly understand if it was the reason.
The second gal is an Air Force spouse. She is subsidized by the AF (which means the AF pays part of her child care. Well she couldn't find anyone who could take an infant (14 months old) who was affilliated with the AF. She heard from a friend, which is a coworker of David's, that I was opening a day care. They called David and I got in touch with her. I went over the contract with her, she assured me she was coming with me and even called Tuesday night to confirm and sad she forgot to go to the bank and could she bring the money when she picked up the child. I agreed. I was up at 7am, she was suppose to be there at 7:15... NO SHOW!!!!!!!!!!!! Guess she decided not to start her new job or find someone else! No one with any experience or licensing or training is going to take an infant at the last minute for what she was paying. So I am assuming she just didn't go to work. But maybe she got a friend to watch the child? She still could have called!!!!!!!!!!
I observed a licensed child care provider a couple doors down from me and she said I should get a non-refundable deposit when they interview. In fact, most day cares do that! They request an enrollment fee of $20, $50, $100 to cover the cost of paperwork, licensing, time, etc. I request a $100 deposit that they can use for thier last week of care, so they're getting it back, but if they stiff me and don't show for a week, I'm covered! GRRRR. I'm already fustrated ad I haven't even started! Bah hum bug!
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Friday, August 15, 2008
The Process
The first step of getting the day care up and running, was attending an orientation for the state regulations. I did that on Aug. 5. On Aug. 6-8 the Air Force offered a 3 day (free) training on Air Force regulations, CPR and First Aid, Food Handling, Signs and Symptoms, and Medication Administration and much more. The state requires 15 hours of training int he first year and 5 years every year after that. So, I have surpassed the state requirements for training.
The 2nd step was to get my home occupation license. On Aug. 6th, on the way home from training, I stopped into City Hall to turn in my paperwork for the license. I was approved in a matter of minutes, went and paid and was issued my license.
The third step was the fire marshall. I was worried about this, as there is only one inspector in all of Wichita and was told it may take a while. On Wednesday night, Aug. 6, I called and left a message with him. He called back the very next day at 9am and he had an appt. for the following Monday at 2pm. David and I spent the weekend installing more smoke detectors; putting tools, chemicals, etc. into the shed and garage; and putting locks on the doors. I had the inspection and passed with flying colors. He said I exceeded regulations and he was impressed! Woohoo! So I've spent the last couple days making copies of everything; gathering paperwork; writing my contracts and policies, etc.
Wednesday, August 13, I turned in all the paperwork and wrote my checks for licensed home day care!!!! This can take a while. They send my paperwork to Topeka and get my KBI/SRS background check done, register my dayc are name "Koop's Kids and More". Once all that is done, they'll issue me a temporary license. At the same time, I was contacted this morning by the home health nurse that will be inspecting my house and day care. She has recieved my paperwork and will contact me for my initial visit once it's all submitted. Now I have to be ready, as if I have kids in care with my TB test, files set up, my kids' medical forms, etc. I also have to "finish" the house...locking everything, putting things out of reach, etc. Since I have the kitchen blocked off, all drawers and cabinets locked, I'm not sure if the one "alcove" with cleaners in it, counts as being high enough to be away from kids, or if that will be a violation?! UGH...so much to do yet!
It's happening so fast, yet not fast enough. I need to paint!!! I need to get clients! I need to get motivated and work on my scraproom!!!!!!! I need to get organized! LOL.. Ugh. I need to get motivated. Last night after the kids left, I straightened up a bit and laid on the couch watching my soaps. This morning, I cleaned the table, loaded the dishwasher, recieved a FedEx package, but mostly have benn just sitting on the computer and watching my soaps! It's so quiet here. I'm really enjoying being alone, too much!
That's the update. Things are moving along. Need to get my TB test and get the kids' medical records signed off by thier physician. I also have to give Raeana's mom all the paperwork as well to get done, I'll do that today. It will probably take her a while. I'm gonna start advertising too. I'm waiting on business cards and stuff. I want to have an "open house" once I'm ready. This is so exciting, overwhelming, scary!
The 2nd step was to get my home occupation license. On Aug. 6th, on the way home from training, I stopped into City Hall to turn in my paperwork for the license. I was approved in a matter of minutes, went and paid and was issued my license.
The third step was the fire marshall. I was worried about this, as there is only one inspector in all of Wichita and was told it may take a while. On Wednesday night, Aug. 6, I called and left a message with him. He called back the very next day at 9am and he had an appt. for the following Monday at 2pm. David and I spent the weekend installing more smoke detectors; putting tools, chemicals, etc. into the shed and garage; and putting locks on the doors. I had the inspection and passed with flying colors. He said I exceeded regulations and he was impressed! Woohoo! So I've spent the last couple days making copies of everything; gathering paperwork; writing my contracts and policies, etc.
Wednesday, August 13, I turned in all the paperwork and wrote my checks for licensed home day care!!!! This can take a while. They send my paperwork to Topeka and get my KBI/SRS background check done, register my dayc are name "Koop's Kids and More". Once all that is done, they'll issue me a temporary license. At the same time, I was contacted this morning by the home health nurse that will be inspecting my house and day care. She has recieved my paperwork and will contact me for my initial visit once it's all submitted. Now I have to be ready, as if I have kids in care with my TB test, files set up, my kids' medical forms, etc. I also have to "finish" the house...locking everything, putting things out of reach, etc. Since I have the kitchen blocked off, all drawers and cabinets locked, I'm not sure if the one "alcove" with cleaners in it, counts as being high enough to be away from kids, or if that will be a violation?! UGH...so much to do yet!
It's happening so fast, yet not fast enough. I need to paint!!! I need to get clients! I need to get motivated and work on my scraproom!!!!!!! I need to get organized! LOL.. Ugh. I need to get motivated. Last night after the kids left, I straightened up a bit and laid on the couch watching my soaps. This morning, I cleaned the table, loaded the dishwasher, recieved a FedEx package, but mostly have benn just sitting on the computer and watching my soaps! It's so quiet here. I'm really enjoying being alone, too much!
That's the update. Things are moving along. Need to get my TB test and get the kids' medical records signed off by thier physician. I also have to give Raeana's mom all the paperwork as well to get done, I'll do that today. It will probably take her a while. I'm gonna start advertising too. I'm waiting on business cards and stuff. I want to have an "open house" once I'm ready. This is so exciting, overwhelming, scary!
Monday, August 4, 2008
What's Changed?
My friend messaged me yesterday (hope you don't get offended that you sparked a blog!), asking me what has changed and what has happened? She said I've seemed happier in the last couple days according to my status. I replied and explained that a lot has changed, so I thought I'd share.
First of all, David is recognizing and acknowledging that there is a "problem". Of course, that's always a first step. You can't change, what you don't acknowledge. Hell, I've known for a long time that there's something wrong with me!
Second, while I did have to make the appointments for him, David is going to this "Communications" class and he's now started counseling. He's actually replying to me when I talk, he's sharing his thoughts and feelings and he's taking more responsibility in the house and with the children.
Third, he's being very supportive and encouraging, which is something he's always been, don't get me wrong, but even more! He's told me that it's okay for me to spend weekends alone at the other house. He's helping me work on the other house. He's being supportive with the business. He's seeing that him being "my other kid" has been a huge burden and that I'm on the verge of cracking. He's seeing that I miss scrapbooking and really wanting to do everything possible to get me back to it.
Last, but not least, he's taking initiative. His excuse has always been...he's just not motivated, he keeps procrastinating. Well, this weekend he took initiative to get a babysitter (although she cancelled last minute and he scrambled for another-Thank you for the last minute sitting Steph!) and planned a "date" for our 10 year anniversary. Also, he took took initiative to clean the gutters. And, yesterday while I was at the commissary, instead of spending all of naptime playing PS2 with Ben, David mowed and edged the entire yard (even inside the fence!). Normally, these are the types of things I'd have to nag about for weeks and usually just end up doing on my own!
So, how long will this last? Granted, at the moment, it's lasted more then the usual "two days" or "week", but is it for real? Is it permanent? How long will it take for me to not be "leary". He always "changes" for a couple days and then it's back to same ole, same ole. However, he's never sincerely acknowledged the problems. Nothing's "changed" really in just a couple days, it's been over a couple weeks. I have to look on the positive side. I have to believe this is for real, for my own sanity. It will be a long process, I'm sure. David talked to his brother and he's been going through counseling and stuff for two years. He told David to expect to go from one extreme to the other and then eventually he'll find his balance. I don't feel patronized this time. I feel like David is acknowledging his withdrawl and wanting to work on it. He's wanting to reconnect. He's feeling the distance between us and realizing it's not just PMS or a phase.
So, that's my update. Hubby and I are working on things together, I am working on personal things, I'm trying to get my dream business going and get back to scrapping and I have started to go through stuff and purge and simplify. How can I not feel better, or seem lighter and happier?
First of all, David is recognizing and acknowledging that there is a "problem". Of course, that's always a first step. You can't change, what you don't acknowledge. Hell, I've known for a long time that there's something wrong with me!
Second, while I did have to make the appointments for him, David is going to this "Communications" class and he's now started counseling. He's actually replying to me when I talk, he's sharing his thoughts and feelings and he's taking more responsibility in the house and with the children.
Third, he's being very supportive and encouraging, which is something he's always been, don't get me wrong, but even more! He's told me that it's okay for me to spend weekends alone at the other house. He's helping me work on the other house. He's being supportive with the business. He's seeing that him being "my other kid" has been a huge burden and that I'm on the verge of cracking. He's seeing that I miss scrapbooking and really wanting to do everything possible to get me back to it.
Last, but not least, he's taking initiative. His excuse has always been...he's just not motivated, he keeps procrastinating. Well, this weekend he took initiative to get a babysitter (although she cancelled last minute and he scrambled for another-Thank you for the last minute sitting Steph!) and planned a "date" for our 10 year anniversary. Also, he took took initiative to clean the gutters. And, yesterday while I was at the commissary, instead of spending all of naptime playing PS2 with Ben, David mowed and edged the entire yard (even inside the fence!). Normally, these are the types of things I'd have to nag about for weeks and usually just end up doing on my own!
So, how long will this last? Granted, at the moment, it's lasted more then the usual "two days" or "week", but is it for real? Is it permanent? How long will it take for me to not be "leary". He always "changes" for a couple days and then it's back to same ole, same ole. However, he's never sincerely acknowledged the problems. Nothing's "changed" really in just a couple days, it's been over a couple weeks. I have to look on the positive side. I have to believe this is for real, for my own sanity. It will be a long process, I'm sure. David talked to his brother and he's been going through counseling and stuff for two years. He told David to expect to go from one extreme to the other and then eventually he'll find his balance. I don't feel patronized this time. I feel like David is acknowledging his withdrawl and wanting to work on it. He's wanting to reconnect. He's feeling the distance between us and realizing it's not just PMS or a phase.
So, that's my update. Hubby and I are working on things together, I am working on personal things, I'm trying to get my dream business going and get back to scrapping and I have started to go through stuff and purge and simplify. How can I not feel better, or seem lighter and happier?
Saturday, August 2, 2008
Our 10 year anniversary
August 1, 1998 David and I got married. We've been married 10 years now (together 13). That's a big deal to me! We've had the occasional rough patch, and we're working through one right now, but we'll always stay together! No one in the world could put up with me like he does!
I am so impressed with my hubby today. David had the day off, cause he has to work the weekend. We went to the Sabin house, as I had to babysit Raeana. I mowed the lawn while David edged. Then while I was getting kids changed and down for a nap, David finished the lawn and started cleaning the gutters. Not only did he clean the gutters, but while I made dinner, he washed down the house and driveway too and now it looks all pretty. :) While he was working on the gutters, he called my friend Diana and got her to babysit on Sunday night and we're going out to dinner! How can we be having money trouble and afford to go out to dinner? We have a $25 gift card to TGI Fridays, that David got as a "Thank you gift" from one of the parents we coached for soccer! TGI Fridays is close to Diana's and the kids haven't seen her kids in a long time. He did it! He took initaitive! He planned something. This is one thing I've always said I've wanted! WOOHOO!
So we didn't do anything big for the big 10. Someday when we have our successful business and the kids are older, maybe we will. For us though, this was a good anniversary. Just being us. Being together as a family. I cooked dinner and all the kids ate, we ate together, the kids enjoyed playing in the water, they all helped with the yard, we even had the dogs with us.
Happy Anniversary David! I love you forever and always, no matter what! Thank you for spending the last 13 years of your life with me. Thank you for your love, children, devotion and being such a wonderful dad and provider.
I am so impressed with my hubby today. David had the day off, cause he has to work the weekend. We went to the Sabin house, as I had to babysit Raeana. I mowed the lawn while David edged. Then while I was getting kids changed and down for a nap, David finished the lawn and started cleaning the gutters. Not only did he clean the gutters, but while I made dinner, he washed down the house and driveway too and now it looks all pretty. :) While he was working on the gutters, he called my friend Diana and got her to babysit on Sunday night and we're going out to dinner! How can we be having money trouble and afford to go out to dinner? We have a $25 gift card to TGI Fridays, that David got as a "Thank you gift" from one of the parents we coached for soccer! TGI Fridays is close to Diana's and the kids haven't seen her kids in a long time. He did it! He took initaitive! He planned something. This is one thing I've always said I've wanted! WOOHOO!
So we didn't do anything big for the big 10. Someday when we have our successful business and the kids are older, maybe we will. For us though, this was a good anniversary. Just being us. Being together as a family. I cooked dinner and all the kids ate, we ate together, the kids enjoyed playing in the water, they all helped with the yard, we even had the dogs with us.
Happy Anniversary David! I love you forever and always, no matter what! Thank you for spending the last 13 years of your life with me. Thank you for your love, children, devotion and being such a wonderful dad and provider.
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