Well, 10pm last night and he's laying down as if nothing happened and I asked if he had checked myspace lately. He said he had earlier. I said there was something for him on there. So he opens his computer and reads my blog. He says, "I said I was sorry for Friday and you didn't believe me, said I was patronizing you". See, Friday's "sorry" was a sarcastic, she's pissed, let's pat her head and send her on her way type sorry. And nothing had been mentioned since!
So after reading my blog and me bitching for a half hour-he's sorry and he's a self proclaimed asshole and jerk and screw up, and for the 10 millionth time, he's going to work on it. Just like the last time I bitched! Then he got all touchy feely and I said, "don't even think about it!" and we went to bed at 1am!!! The present he got me was something that I wanted and begged for for months and months and was hoping I'd get for Christmas (and didn't!)...it's a Sander and sanding pads. Yes, I asked for a sander! And it had a dust collection system in it...which means I can sand without clearing the room first! HAHA!
So that's the update. He's gonna work on his communication. He's going to work on growing up and not being my 6th child!!! That's getting real old and I'm at my breaking point! He helped create this zoo, he can help take care of it! Even mentioned seeing someone to help him out and asked if I would go with, I think he should go alone, then we can work together, I've seen people alone, guess it's his turn! He'll have month off work after his surgery to see someone and work on communicating. Although I suspect most the communication will be how much pain he's in!
I have decided, that I am stepping back! With David being immobile for the next month, it won't be completely, but I'm going to take time for myself. I'm sick of being sad and lonely and frumpy. I will go to the YMCA and be alone (or with friends) in classes. I will put the kids in Kids Zone and not feel bad about it. I will take time to do things I like. I will work on getting in shape. And maybe, I'll get my scrap area workable again and someday scrap again! Now the scrap thing, being is I'll be taking care of a half dead David, I don't see happening right away! But I'm vowing to make some positive changes! Maybe those changes will make it less easy for me to get resentful or angry. We'll see.
Monday, February 25, 2008
Sunday, February 24, 2008
My husband's an ASSHOLE! (explicit language ahead)
Alright, so right now, I'm pissed off and I'm going to tell why I think my husband's an asshole, besides the fact that he ruined a GREAT day!!!!
MONTHS ago his shoulder was hurting and he said nothing, did nothing, mentioned nothing!!!!!!!!!!!! While he was in the desert, he decided he couldn't take it anymore, so he went to see a DR there (no mention to me til AFTER the fact!!!). They did some poking and prodding and said he had something and gave him some Motrin. A week or two later he was worse and couldn't stand it anymore and went in and they gave him a Cortisone shot. Things were better for a tad bit, but then they got worse. Now, this coming Wednesday, David is going in for shoulder repair surgery!!!!!!!
Communication has always been one of his weak points. I have come to live with and deal with this over the last 12 years!!! It's quite annoying, but it's him.
This past Friday, he was on the phone with his dad, I am in the middle of trying to make dinner (spaghetti) and he's rummage around behind me, not saying anything, but doing several things (including getting in my way!). What is he doing? What are his plans for the pan he put on the stove? This pan we normally use for steaming vegetables and yet he's asking me where the noodles are? Who's making dinner? Well, his response is, "I'm trying to help". Trying to help who? How do you call what he's doing help? I never asked for help! Guess what...at that point, I quit making dinner!!! And I proceeded to rant and rave how I'm sick of his lack of communication. We went to bed without saying anything, without a kiss, I was up all night, sick to my stomach, naustious all the next day! He ignored me, my complaints, did nothing, said nothing!!!!
Today! Two days later...he gets a call (voice mail) at 1045am (on the way out the door to church!) to get into work at 1pm, and they said there was announcement and he could come in civilian clothes. I said, what if you were in church and didn't get the message? What if your wife was gone and you had to take the kids. He said, "I could take the kids". (See, I had a step and pump class to take at the YMCA with 4 other people that was scheduled!) I jokingly and sheepishly said, I could always take the kids and put them in Kid Zone. He said NOTHING! Did nothing!!!! So, off to church we went, the kids were up early and were being unruly and David and I both needed gas before our appts, so we left church early. David asked how much gas I wanted in my car, I didn't care. I said, "you should take the van, I'll take your car." He said "why?" I said, cause you'll have the kids". He said, "I thought you were going to put them in Kids Zone". What? I offered! He said nothing. I assumed he was really gonna take the kids. I don't have them signed up, papers signed, nothing! I wasn't gonna put them in til the 1st of March when I started taking classes, cause otherwise I gotta pay more...I won't need it again til then!
I haven't spoken to him since. I'm pissed off! I'm sick of his lack of communication! We get home from the YMCA and there are flowers on my computer tray and presents. Still he's said nothing to me tho. That's hilarious. Oh here's some flowers and presents, lets FUCK and make up? Screw that! It's 830pm and still he's said nothing! FUCK YOU! Never apologized for Friday, never mentioned anything about Friday's episode. Never mentioned about the fact I'm pissed about his shoulder, NO mention of today's episode!!!! And, from the presents and flowers, there was a mess all over the place-wrapping paper in the living room and stems in the sink!!! That of course I had to clean up! Thanks a lot!
MONTHS ago his shoulder was hurting and he said nothing, did nothing, mentioned nothing!!!!!!!!!!!! While he was in the desert, he decided he couldn't take it anymore, so he went to see a DR there (no mention to me til AFTER the fact!!!). They did some poking and prodding and said he had something and gave him some Motrin. A week or two later he was worse and couldn't stand it anymore and went in and they gave him a Cortisone shot. Things were better for a tad bit, but then they got worse. Now, this coming Wednesday, David is going in for shoulder repair surgery!!!!!!!
Communication has always been one of his weak points. I have come to live with and deal with this over the last 12 years!!! It's quite annoying, but it's him.
This past Friday, he was on the phone with his dad, I am in the middle of trying to make dinner (spaghetti) and he's rummage around behind me, not saying anything, but doing several things (including getting in my way!). What is he doing? What are his plans for the pan he put on the stove? This pan we normally use for steaming vegetables and yet he's asking me where the noodles are? Who's making dinner? Well, his response is, "I'm trying to help". Trying to help who? How do you call what he's doing help? I never asked for help! Guess what...at that point, I quit making dinner!!! And I proceeded to rant and rave how I'm sick of his lack of communication. We went to bed without saying anything, without a kiss, I was up all night, sick to my stomach, naustious all the next day! He ignored me, my complaints, did nothing, said nothing!!!!
Today! Two days later...he gets a call (voice mail) at 1045am (on the way out the door to church!) to get into work at 1pm, and they said there was announcement and he could come in civilian clothes. I said, what if you were in church and didn't get the message? What if your wife was gone and you had to take the kids. He said, "I could take the kids". (See, I had a step and pump class to take at the YMCA with 4 other people that was scheduled!) I jokingly and sheepishly said, I could always take the kids and put them in Kid Zone. He said NOTHING! Did nothing!!!! So, off to church we went, the kids were up early and were being unruly and David and I both needed gas before our appts, so we left church early. David asked how much gas I wanted in my car, I didn't care. I said, "you should take the van, I'll take your car." He said "why?" I said, cause you'll have the kids". He said, "I thought you were going to put them in Kids Zone". What? I offered! He said nothing. I assumed he was really gonna take the kids. I don't have them signed up, papers signed, nothing! I wasn't gonna put them in til the 1st of March when I started taking classes, cause otherwise I gotta pay more...I won't need it again til then!
I haven't spoken to him since. I'm pissed off! I'm sick of his lack of communication! We get home from the YMCA and there are flowers on my computer tray and presents. Still he's said nothing to me tho. That's hilarious. Oh here's some flowers and presents, lets FUCK and make up? Screw that! It's 830pm and still he's said nothing! FUCK YOU! Never apologized for Friday, never mentioned anything about Friday's episode. Never mentioned about the fact I'm pissed about his shoulder, NO mention of today's episode!!!! And, from the presents and flowers, there was a mess all over the place-wrapping paper in the living room and stems in the sink!!! That of course I had to clean up! Thanks a lot!
We have POOP
Okay, this may not be exciting for some, but it is for us. We have been talking to Shanndon a little about pottying. We went out and picked out big boy underwear and been putting him in it every now and then. For his birthday we gave him a "potty time Elmo". Yesterday he was in underwear and slept in my bed for a nap and didn't wet!!!
Today, he was wearing his Hot Wheels underwear and he saw his Mickey Mouse underwear and wanted to wear them instead! David said, "you already have underwear on, maybe tomorrow". About 2 minutes later, Shanndon came in and said, "mommy, I peed in my Hot wheels underwear, I want to wear my Mickey Mouse underwear". So David told him that we tried to wear underwear today and it didn't work, so he'll wear a diaper the rest of the day...Shanndon was upset and I told him, "you have to decide if you want to go potty like a big boy, or wear a diaper like a baby". He said, "I will go potty like a big boy!" A few minutes later, Shanndon comes running in and says, "Daddy, I pooped in the potty all by my elf!" ("elf", isn't that the cutest thing!) So I ran in and David was checking his butt..sure enough, he pooped!!! He also wiped (pretty well), flushed and washed his hands all by his "ELF"!!!!!! I'm going to have a heartache with giddiness today!!!!
Well, Sky just pooped on the carpet square in front of the door...so not a perfect day, but that's okay. I'm on cloud nine!!! Gotta go get ready for church. After church it will be lunch and nap time and I'll head off to workout with my crew (Stephanie, Maialen and Carolina)!!
Today, he was wearing his Hot Wheels underwear and he saw his Mickey Mouse underwear and wanted to wear them instead! David said, "you already have underwear on, maybe tomorrow". About 2 minutes later, Shanndon came in and said, "mommy, I peed in my Hot wheels underwear, I want to wear my Mickey Mouse underwear". So David told him that we tried to wear underwear today and it didn't work, so he'll wear a diaper the rest of the day...Shanndon was upset and I told him, "you have to decide if you want to go potty like a big boy, or wear a diaper like a baby". He said, "I will go potty like a big boy!" A few minutes later, Shanndon comes running in and says, "Daddy, I pooped in the potty all by my elf!" ("elf", isn't that the cutest thing!) So I ran in and David was checking his butt..sure enough, he pooped!!! He also wiped (pretty well), flushed and washed his hands all by his "ELF"!!!!!! I'm going to have a heartache with giddiness today!!!!
Well, Sky just pooped on the carpet square in front of the door...so not a perfect day, but that's okay. I'm on cloud nine!!! Gotta go get ready for church. After church it will be lunch and nap time and I'll head off to workout with my crew (Stephanie, Maialen and Carolina)!!
Up Early
OMG! I was up and raring to go at 515am! I slept so well!! I feel so good!!!! What is wrong here! It's Sunday...go back to sleep! I dunno what to do with a morning that isn't groggy and cranky!
I dunno if it's because of all the acitivity lately, or if it's because I have stuff the next day to look forward too that's just for me, or what. Just for me. That's right, I said it. I am going to workout today with no little children! Sure, I'll look like a flaling fish out of water like I did yesterday in front of my friend and my girls, but I DON'T CARE!!!! I dunno what's more exciting, having Stephanie to go with, or having something to share with Maialen and Carolina?!
Why am I excited to leave my kids and hubby for an hour? Isn't it sad? I really do love them! I think about them while I'm gone and if the house will still be standing when I get home! I'm so confused! Here I go and send my kid to school and he likes it, so it makes me sad, then I go and choose to leave my kids while I workout and I like it, so it worries me. Am I suppose to be this confused? Life was getting too stressful and overwhelming, so I wanted to take a break- now I'm getting active again and I like it! Stop the roller coaster! I want off!
Christianna woke up just before 7am and was all peppy and happy and non cranky too! I made coffee and David is making breakfast. It's been a great morning!
I dunno if it's because of all the acitivity lately, or if it's because I have stuff the next day to look forward too that's just for me, or what. Just for me. That's right, I said it. I am going to workout today with no little children! Sure, I'll look like a flaling fish out of water like I did yesterday in front of my friend and my girls, but I DON'T CARE!!!! I dunno what's more exciting, having Stephanie to go with, or having something to share with Maialen and Carolina?!
Why am I excited to leave my kids and hubby for an hour? Isn't it sad? I really do love them! I think about them while I'm gone and if the house will still be standing when I get home! I'm so confused! Here I go and send my kid to school and he likes it, so it makes me sad, then I go and choose to leave my kids while I workout and I like it, so it worries me. Am I suppose to be this confused? Life was getting too stressful and overwhelming, so I wanted to take a break- now I'm getting active again and I like it! Stop the roller coaster! I want off!
Christianna woke up just before 7am and was all peppy and happy and non cranky too! I made coffee and David is making breakfast. It's been a great morning!
Saturday, February 23, 2008
YMCA
Okay, I'm not getting all health conscience or anything, but we joined the YMCA!! It's been fun. The family has been swimming a few times and I've taken a few classes. Yoga, step aerobics and tomorrow (Sunday) the girls and I are going to try Pump. It's been interesting. I signed up for some "basics to" classes (cycling, fitness, yoga and pilates). They are to learn the basics, and are in the morning. I'm going to put Shanndon and Christianna in the "kids zone" while I do classes and Ben can workout or swim or play in the big kids area. Even Ben is wanting to workout! What's even more fun is that Steph's family joined the YMCA also (totally unplanned and coincidental!!!!!!) So I have a buddy to workout with (today Steph and I did Yoga and Step) and the kids have friends they can do stuff with too (we met them at South to swim the other night)! Plus, it's getting us more "active" in this winter slump. And they have kids fitness stuff too for Ben's age. I haven't looked into it yet, but it's there for the looking into if we want it! I'm not trying to change too much. We aren't changing eating habits or counting calories. Just adding some activity. Small steps. I feel like we have options to explore. Another plus, is that it's not dependent on anything. We don't HAVE to do it, we can drop in on open excercise classes and open swim times (there are lots of classes and lots of times available to drop in on!) Also, there's no "have toos" or commitment! I'm loving it. We'll see how long it lasts! It's been fun so far. There are two YMCAs in close distance-the West (main one we use that's closest) and the South. We can use any YMCA, so if I happened to be North, I could pop into that one! The base has a gym for free, but it's farther and the classes aren't as varied or numerous, the pool is cold and not family friendly, and they don't have child care! The YMCA pools are warm, have slides, shallow ends, and mushroom fountains!
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Preschool
Tuesday February 19th Shanndon started his first day of public school. We had been talking about it for a long time, hoping to prepare him. He had seemed excited. We get there...he falls apart! My heart was breaking. Mrs. Smith (one of the paras) pulled him from me and talked to him and sat with him, held him and distracted him. She was very nice. I was filling out forms, trying to find out his bus schedule, etc. I could hear him screaming; "I want my mommy. Where'd my mommy go?" I was dying inside! What have I done!? Before I left, I saw he was calmed down, not crying, sitting on Mrs. Smith's lap and I leave.
I came to pick him up at 410pm (I took him and dropped him off for his first day), and he was sitting so nicely. He was so proud of his back pack. He told his teacher, Mrs. Bell, "Bye. See you tomorrow". He walked down the hall like a big boy. He looks so tiny in that big hallway!!!! I tell him I need to go to the store, so I give him a choice to go to the store or should we go home, he chooses the store. So we get home and daddy and Carolina (Maia was at a basketball game cheering til 10pm) make a big deal of school and we all say what a big boy he is, etc. He seemed so proud! He had a big smile on his face. It was cute. That night, we went swimming with Stephanie and her family at the south YMCA. Shanndon was on day 4 of no nap! He came home and passed out!!!!
Wednesday, Feb 20th he was going to start riding the school bus. Before this, he had been so excited! He was going to ride the school bus just like Carolina and Maia do!!!! The bus came and he cried and threw a fit. They wouldn't take him! It didn't help that they were substitutes either, so I'm sure they aren't used to this age, or the "special needs" type behavior. So I had to run in and get dressed and load kids (didn't help that the school bus was late and then the fit Shanndon threw, then me having to get pants on and kids loaded). We didn't get there til 140pm! Class starts at 120pm. LOL. So I asked how he was gong to get home. If they had trouble they'd call me. Sure enough-426pm Shanndon's bus pulled up. He was was happy and he did OK. He was in a line with other students and he cried a little, but nothing like the before school bus. So then we all (Maia included this time) again made a big deal about him being big and riding the bus and he was so happy.
Wednesday night he went in his own class at church for the very first time (Rainbows). He was with friends (Nathan, Lauryn and Olivia). He had fun. It's only an hour and I have the class right next door.
I was worried about today-but prepared. Was I going to have to drive him?Was he going to throw a fit again? He didn't!!!! He walked on the us all by himself! He got in his harness, didn't fuss, sat like a big boy. I waved him off. Today they have school pictures.
OMG!!!!! Shanndon's a big boy. He's doing well! I think he likes school! I'm going to cry! Aren't kids suppose to want thier mom, need thier mom, be devastated and scarred without thier mom? I just "lost" one of my babies!
Yesterday while Shanndon was at school, we all had Dr appts. Today, we've been out and about all day, so Christianna hadn't had a nap. So Christianna is napping and Shanndon is at school! I took out hamburger for dinner (for spaghetti), cleaned the outside of the fridge, I did a load of laundry and straightened an area of the laundry room, then Ben and I played 2 board games! Now I'm blogging. IF she's still asleep when I get done blogging, I'm going to clean off my dryer. IF she wakes up, I'll get her a snack and play a bit with her. Play with Christianna? Alone? How do I do that? What do I do? I don't know what to do with myself! I'm going to freak out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am going to "plan" to go to gym from 130p-4p three days a week, starting next week. if we can get there, get Christianna in the "kids zone" and Ben set up and me working out by 2pm, I can work out til 330pm, gather Ben and Christianna and get home by 4pm, then Shanndon will be dropped off about 426pm. I can start dinner and be ready for him when he gets home. Then, serve dinner and baths and books and bed. Perfect! I've got it all figured out. Will it work? Okay, well I gotta go clean my dryer off. That's my blog for the day! LOL
I came to pick him up at 410pm (I took him and dropped him off for his first day), and he was sitting so nicely. He was so proud of his back pack. He told his teacher, Mrs. Bell, "Bye. See you tomorrow". He walked down the hall like a big boy. He looks so tiny in that big hallway!!!! I tell him I need to go to the store, so I give him a choice to go to the store or should we go home, he chooses the store. So we get home and daddy and Carolina (Maia was at a basketball game cheering til 10pm) make a big deal of school and we all say what a big boy he is, etc. He seemed so proud! He had a big smile on his face. It was cute. That night, we went swimming with Stephanie and her family at the south YMCA. Shanndon was on day 4 of no nap! He came home and passed out!!!!
Wednesday, Feb 20th he was going to start riding the school bus. Before this, he had been so excited! He was going to ride the school bus just like Carolina and Maia do!!!! The bus came and he cried and threw a fit. They wouldn't take him! It didn't help that they were substitutes either, so I'm sure they aren't used to this age, or the "special needs" type behavior. So I had to run in and get dressed and load kids (didn't help that the school bus was late and then the fit Shanndon threw, then me having to get pants on and kids loaded). We didn't get there til 140pm! Class starts at 120pm. LOL. So I asked how he was gong to get home. If they had trouble they'd call me. Sure enough-426pm Shanndon's bus pulled up. He was was happy and he did OK. He was in a line with other students and he cried a little, but nothing like the before school bus. So then we all (Maia included this time) again made a big deal about him being big and riding the bus and he was so happy.
Wednesday night he went in his own class at church for the very first time (Rainbows). He was with friends (Nathan, Lauryn and Olivia). He had fun. It's only an hour and I have the class right next door.
I was worried about today-but prepared. Was I going to have to drive him?Was he going to throw a fit again? He didn't!!!! He walked on the us all by himself! He got in his harness, didn't fuss, sat like a big boy. I waved him off. Today they have school pictures.
OMG!!!!! Shanndon's a big boy. He's doing well! I think he likes school! I'm going to cry! Aren't kids suppose to want thier mom, need thier mom, be devastated and scarred without thier mom? I just "lost" one of my babies!
Yesterday while Shanndon was at school, we all had Dr appts. Today, we've been out and about all day, so Christianna hadn't had a nap. So Christianna is napping and Shanndon is at school! I took out hamburger for dinner (for spaghetti), cleaned the outside of the fridge, I did a load of laundry and straightened an area of the laundry room, then Ben and I played 2 board games! Now I'm blogging. IF she's still asleep when I get done blogging, I'm going to clean off my dryer. IF she wakes up, I'll get her a snack and play a bit with her. Play with Christianna? Alone? How do I do that? What do I do? I don't know what to do with myself! I'm going to freak out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am going to "plan" to go to gym from 130p-4p three days a week, starting next week. if we can get there, get Christianna in the "kids zone" and Ben set up and me working out by 2pm, I can work out til 330pm, gather Ben and Christianna and get home by 4pm, then Shanndon will be dropped off about 426pm. I can start dinner and be ready for him when he gets home. Then, serve dinner and baths and books and bed. Perfect! I've got it all figured out. Will it work? Okay, well I gotta go clean my dryer off. That's my blog for the day! LOL
Sunday, February 17, 2008
Shanndon's 3rd Birthday
February 17, 2005 Shanndon Alexander Koopmans came into this world. Wow, it's been 3 years today! So much has happened to our little family in 3 years! My crazy, clingy, whiny, needy, wild, "non-verbal" baby has turned into a sweet, compasionate, loving, talkative, mature little preschooler! That's right-preschooler! Tuesday he starts preschool at a public school! I'm going to miss him. It's Monday thru Friday (public school schedule) 1:20pm-4pm. OMG! He has a school supply list, and I have sitting here in front of me a backpack FULL of stuff to take with us when I drop him off at school. Wednesday he'll start taking the bus!!! Also Tuesday, he has his first dentist appointment.
So today we have had a wonderful day! He woke up at 730am and crawled in bed with us. Daddy and I sang happy birthday. We watched "Sprout" and cuddled with Shanndon and Christianna for a bit. Then ate breakfast, bathed the dogs, got ready for church and went. After church, we came home and ate lunch (PB&J). Then Shanndon opened presents. Papa (David's dad) sent him this 3 in 1 playhouse (it's a house, tent and tunnel that takes up our entire living room!). Carolina and Maialen got him playdoh, a Plug N Play game (his very own "playstation") and a "phlat ball' (disc ball). Mommy and daddy got him a potty Elmo and Dinosaur Little People sets. The kids (all 3 of them-well all 5 really!) have had a blast playing all afternoon. For dessert, all afternoon we've been eating strawberries, bananas and pretzels with our chocolate fountain. For dinner we're going somewhere special-Osaka Fantasy Japanese Steakhouse. We (and Shanndon) love that place. They put on a show while they cook. It's the quietest and most still my two little children are ever!!!! We've only been there a couple times, but MAN, the kids were in awe when we went!
Happy 3rd Birthday Shanndon!!!! Mommy loves you so much!
So today we have had a wonderful day! He woke up at 730am and crawled in bed with us. Daddy and I sang happy birthday. We watched "Sprout" and cuddled with Shanndon and Christianna for a bit. Then ate breakfast, bathed the dogs, got ready for church and went. After church, we came home and ate lunch (PB&J). Then Shanndon opened presents. Papa (David's dad) sent him this 3 in 1 playhouse (it's a house, tent and tunnel that takes up our entire living room!). Carolina and Maialen got him playdoh, a Plug N Play game (his very own "playstation") and a "phlat ball' (disc ball). Mommy and daddy got him a potty Elmo and Dinosaur Little People sets. The kids (all 3 of them-well all 5 really!) have had a blast playing all afternoon. For dessert, all afternoon we've been eating strawberries, bananas and pretzels with our chocolate fountain. For dinner we're going somewhere special-Osaka Fantasy Japanese Steakhouse. We (and Shanndon) love that place. They put on a show while they cook. It's the quietest and most still my two little children are ever!!!! We've only been there a couple times, but MAN, the kids were in awe when we went!
Happy 3rd Birthday Shanndon!!!! Mommy loves you so much!
Friday, February 15, 2008
Annoyed with the military
You know, for the most part I like military life, it's not bad. It's a steady paycheck, it's free health care, good vacation time, etc. There are a lot of perks. Ever since 9-11-01, it's different. David is gone a lot! I miss my husband, the kids miss thier dad. That aside...
When you sign up for the military, you are thiers! Regardless. It's Friday-you go into work at 5am (cause there's mandatory PT) and your shift is 7am-3pm, at 230pm they tell you you're working til they decide your done and by the way, you're working the weekend too!!!! So David calls me at 245pm to tell me that he doesn't know when he'll be home and he's gotta work tomorrow. He got home about 7pm. They yank you around with no notice and just expect you to smile and say okay. So, "okay", but I'm annoyed and gonna blog about them! LOL.
In August, David worked 12 hour shifts for a week, then a couple days regular shifts and then 12 hours for a week again. He calls me up at 530pm and says he's gotta be back in at 630...630am?...no-one hour later (630pm)...and by the way, he's coming home only to pack his bags, he's being deployed to who knows where for who knows how long. So he gets home at 545pm, takes a shower and starts packing his luggage...WHILE TRYING TO GET SHANNDON (our 2 year old) OUT OF IT THE ENTIRE TIME!!!! How sad is that? He hasn't hardly seen his dad in weeks and now daddy is going who knows where for who knows how long? So, he leaves...luckily that turned out to only be a month in the desert. 3 weeks later-he deployed to the desert again for 4 months!
I am a controlling person! I hate being out of control! Heck, this is one of the reasons I homeschool! LOL. So, I was annoyed with military life...I'm better now! Thanks for listening!
When you sign up for the military, you are thiers! Regardless. It's Friday-you go into work at 5am (cause there's mandatory PT) and your shift is 7am-3pm, at 230pm they tell you you're working til they decide your done and by the way, you're working the weekend too!!!! So David calls me at 245pm to tell me that he doesn't know when he'll be home and he's gotta work tomorrow. He got home about 7pm. They yank you around with no notice and just expect you to smile and say okay. So, "okay", but I'm annoyed and gonna blog about them! LOL.
In August, David worked 12 hour shifts for a week, then a couple days regular shifts and then 12 hours for a week again. He calls me up at 530pm and says he's gotta be back in at 630...630am?...no-one hour later (630pm)...and by the way, he's coming home only to pack his bags, he's being deployed to who knows where for who knows how long. So he gets home at 545pm, takes a shower and starts packing his luggage...WHILE TRYING TO GET SHANNDON (our 2 year old) OUT OF IT THE ENTIRE TIME!!!! How sad is that? He hasn't hardly seen his dad in weeks and now daddy is going who knows where for who knows how long? So, he leaves...luckily that turned out to only be a month in the desert. 3 weeks later-he deployed to the desert again for 4 months!
I am a controlling person! I hate being out of control! Heck, this is one of the reasons I homeschool! LOL. So, I was annoyed with military life...I'm better now! Thanks for listening!
Saturday, February 2, 2008
Happy Groundhog's Day (a week's worth of blogging)
Happy Groundhog's Day! I am dying for warmer weather! I hope that the groundhog predicts that spring is right around the corner. LOL. I don't really believe all that stuff, but it's cute none the less.
We've been having lazy days here. Basically life has consisted of maintanence and nothing else. The laundry is done, but not folded and put away. The floors are picked up and swept, but not washed. I told my friend Steph the other day, that she's a bad influence on me. She lives by the theory that, "it's all good", "no worries", "just chill". What's wrong with that? I don't think anything is wrong with it. It's just that life for me, for so long, has been chaos and go go go that it feels weird right now. I don't feel the need to go somewhere everyday. We stay home for days on end, and it's NICE!!!! Part of it is the winter blahs too. I HATE WINTER!!!!! I want to move to Arizona with my friend Jennifer, or I'd love to move to California, but David hates California and wouldn't let me, so I'll dream of Arizona instead. LOL.
This past week:
Saturday, January 26th was Give Parents a Break. David and I went to IHOP and ate lunch, alone! Wow, it was quiet, we sat on the same side of the table. We ate with the original utensils, there was nothing to clean up off the floor or seats! LOL. Then we went to Michaels, and Walmart. Then we picked up the kids and went to the commissary and went to our friend Jennie's for dinner. The kids had not had a nap and were "pills", so we only stayed 7-9pm.
Sunday, January 27th we just went to church and came home.
Monday, January 28th our Parents as Teachers educator (Michelle) came over. She made a bean bag sock with Christianna (the dog got a hold of that and by the end of the day beans were scattered thoughout the house and I threw it away!) With Shanndon she hid things in a box and he was to "feel" for them and pull out the matches to the cards in front of him. He really liked that game and did very well. We'll have to do that more often here. We didn't do anything the rest the day. David is back at work, on day shift.
We've been swing shifters (3p-11p) for most of the last 14 years, so we're getting used to waking up early and going to bed early (unfortunately my children are very good on that type of schedule and have always been day shifters! LOL).
Tuesday January 29th was our first day back to YEA (our home school co-op). Only 7 families showed up, but it was nice! Well, I thought so anyway. There wasn't any chaos. Everyone was calm, no running, screaming, etc. Come to find out some of the other families thought it was boring and too restrictive. Oh well. If just me and one other family likes it, I guess it'll just be us! LOL There is a lot up in the air as far as the co-op goes. So we'll see what happens over the next few weeks.
Wednesday, January 30th-I got Shanndon's school letter in the mail!!! I called the school and went up there. Filled out a ton of paperwork, then filled out even more for the teacher. He'll be starting Feb 19th. His class will be from 1:20pm-4pm and he'll be riding the bus (I'll take him the first day.) They celebrate birthdays once a month and the day that they are celebrating February birthdays is Feb 19th! So the day he starts will be a party! :) He cried when we were in the classroom. I'm so scared!!!!! He'll be the youngest in the class and the only one not potty trained. There are 2 teachers and two paras (helpers) in the class. Shanndon will make the 26th kid, the 5th special needs kid! The bathrooms are not in the room! They are in the hallway. :( My baby will be attending public school! On the other hand, he'll still get YEA and playdates, private speech on Thursday mornings, daddy home in the evenings. We'll see how this goes. I'm not giving it very long!!!! Ben was in preschool for 7 months and that was too long. If ANYTHING goes wrong, I'm pulling him out!
On Wednesday's we go to church for Royal Rangers and Missionettes (children's church programs). Today, Ben got 3 memory verses said for badges in Royal Rangers and Commander Dan marked off a bunch of mental, physical and social merits too. I think he got 2 badges this week. Hopefully he'll learn 2-3 more this week and finish up more. He's on his last year in Ranger Kids(K-2nd grade) and so he has to get all this finished up by July. Then he'll start Discovery Rangers (3rd-5th grades). Now that David is on dayshift, David will be helping in Royal Rangers (Commander David! hehehe, weird!). I have a class in Missionettes. They are "Stars" (3rd-5th grade). This week I had 3 new girls, which puts my class at 11! I like them, altho they are pretty rowdy. They are pretty tameable! Rachel had a hard time dealing with them, but we're doing well right now (probably cause I'm new). Rachel took the K-2nd graders.
We get home from church and Maialen proceeds to tell me about this field trip that is the next day and she doesn't want to go and about this club she doesn't want to be part of, but she feels like she has to, cause this teacher is making her do this stuff, and she doesn't understand any of this project she's suppose to do, yada yada. So, 930pm I call up this teacher to find out about the field trip and clarify the details of the project. She proceeds to tell me that "the girls" are too social, irresponsible, and unfocused. Um, I think she's smoking crack! Maialen and Carolina have excellent grades and work very hard! They are in National Honor Society and several clubs and sports! I spoke with her for about an hour about the girls. This woman is passive aggresive. The type that gives "slams" with a smile on her face. She's crazy. So, I told the girls to go in and see if they can't change classes. It's 4 weeks into the new semester, but maybe they could get into a gym class or something!
Thursday January 31st we had a snow day. We got about 5 inches of snow and school was closed. Maialen and Carolina took the kids outside and played in the snow and even shoveled!!! NICE!!!! I called in to speech and said we wouldn't be coming. I just didn't want to drive in the conditions and risk other drivers either for a one hour speech session. It was the only thing we had to do for the day. Ben's friends Mitch and Mikey were suppose to sleep over, but we postponed it for the next night instead.
Friday, February 1st, I took the kids to Stephanie's so I could go to a Dr. appt. On the way, Carolina called upset, said she got permission to change classes, and that there was a gym class with the soccer coash and she was really happy...but the crazy teacher (Mrs. Cartledge) wouldn't give permission to drop her class, saying that she didn't do the work and she wasn't allowing it. I was ticked! This woman told me that Carolina should try to drop it and that she was as far behind in this class as kids who didn't show up the first semester! Carolina took her first "F" in her life in this woman's class!!!! So after my DR. appt. I called Steph and Marc to ask if it would be alright if I stopped by the school to pitch a fit. Marc said it was fine. Things are good now. The vice principle over rode the class and changed her. Now we just have to keep an eye out for Maialen. If she is mean to Maialen or treats her badly, we'll get her switched too. (Different class than Carolina was in, but same crazy teacher).
I get to Marc and Steph's about 1pm and hung out til 2pm. Loaded the kids up and went to West High School to see Maialen cheer for a pep assembly. Shanndon sat there the whole time covering his ears. It was very loud. Ben and Christianna liked it tho. Then we came home and put kids down for nap, ate dinner and went back to Marc and Steph's to hang out. We took Butterscotch (our puppy) to socialize with thier puppies. It was so cute. He slept well that night! We get to bring our puppy home next Friday. He'll be 6 weeks old. His name is Sky. I think Butterscotch will have a good time having a buddy. We ended up bring Mitch home to sleep over and Mikey went with Jennie's son Jonathan to sleep over.
Saturday February 2nd, that's today. Another do nothing day. It's been so nice. We've all just been hanging out, playing computers and stuff. David went and got a better wireless router for the house, so our connection was faster and better. Wow, it's fast now! The router was in the basement and not doing well for living room and bedroom connectivity. Mitch was bored and wanted to go home, so when David got home from the store, he took Mitch home. The girls went out with friends to eat. Tonight, Maialen is going to the homecoming dance. She has been so happy all week. Its been homecoming week, and they've had different themes each day. Shes so peppy and spirited! It's cute how excited she is.
It'll be so boring around this house when the girls leave! :( The kids will be devastated! I don't know if I'll do this again. It's hard. I didn't expect to be so affected! I thought it'd almost be like having a border or something. Instead, I find myself caring deeply. I care that they like what I make for dinner and they have lots of variety. I care what they think of the family and the lifestyle. I care what's going on at school. I care about thier grades. I worry about thier well being and who they are hanging out with. UGH! Maialen wanted a family with a dog, it makes me want a dog! My family wanted a dog too, don't get me wrong, but I'm not much of a dog person. I'm a cat person. Just fill up thier food and water, scoop thier litter box and it's all good. They'll come to you when they want attention and they just lay around. Luckily there is enough people in this house to play with the dogs that it doesn't have to be me all the time! LOL.
Well, that was our week! We actually have a little busier week coming up. So I'll probably blog more. LOL. Welcome to February!
We've been having lazy days here. Basically life has consisted of maintanence and nothing else. The laundry is done, but not folded and put away. The floors are picked up and swept, but not washed. I told my friend Steph the other day, that she's a bad influence on me. She lives by the theory that, "it's all good", "no worries", "just chill". What's wrong with that? I don't think anything is wrong with it. It's just that life for me, for so long, has been chaos and go go go that it feels weird right now. I don't feel the need to go somewhere everyday. We stay home for days on end, and it's NICE!!!! Part of it is the winter blahs too. I HATE WINTER!!!!! I want to move to Arizona with my friend Jennifer, or I'd love to move to California, but David hates California and wouldn't let me, so I'll dream of Arizona instead. LOL.
This past week:
Saturday, January 26th was Give Parents a Break. David and I went to IHOP and ate lunch, alone! Wow, it was quiet, we sat on the same side of the table. We ate with the original utensils, there was nothing to clean up off the floor or seats! LOL. Then we went to Michaels, and Walmart. Then we picked up the kids and went to the commissary and went to our friend Jennie's for dinner. The kids had not had a nap and were "pills", so we only stayed 7-9pm.
Sunday, January 27th we just went to church and came home.
Monday, January 28th our Parents as Teachers educator (Michelle) came over. She made a bean bag sock with Christianna (the dog got a hold of that and by the end of the day beans were scattered thoughout the house and I threw it away!) With Shanndon she hid things in a box and he was to "feel" for them and pull out the matches to the cards in front of him. He really liked that game and did very well. We'll have to do that more often here. We didn't do anything the rest the day. David is back at work, on day shift.
We've been swing shifters (3p-11p) for most of the last 14 years, so we're getting used to waking up early and going to bed early (unfortunately my children are very good on that type of schedule and have always been day shifters! LOL).
Tuesday January 29th was our first day back to YEA (our home school co-op). Only 7 families showed up, but it was nice! Well, I thought so anyway. There wasn't any chaos. Everyone was calm, no running, screaming, etc. Come to find out some of the other families thought it was boring and too restrictive. Oh well. If just me and one other family likes it, I guess it'll just be us! LOL There is a lot up in the air as far as the co-op goes. So we'll see what happens over the next few weeks.
Wednesday, January 30th-I got Shanndon's school letter in the mail!!! I called the school and went up there. Filled out a ton of paperwork, then filled out even more for the teacher. He'll be starting Feb 19th. His class will be from 1:20pm-4pm and he'll be riding the bus (I'll take him the first day.) They celebrate birthdays once a month and the day that they are celebrating February birthdays is Feb 19th! So the day he starts will be a party! :) He cried when we were in the classroom. I'm so scared!!!!! He'll be the youngest in the class and the only one not potty trained. There are 2 teachers and two paras (helpers) in the class. Shanndon will make the 26th kid, the 5th special needs kid! The bathrooms are not in the room! They are in the hallway. :( My baby will be attending public school! On the other hand, he'll still get YEA and playdates, private speech on Thursday mornings, daddy home in the evenings. We'll see how this goes. I'm not giving it very long!!!! Ben was in preschool for 7 months and that was too long. If ANYTHING goes wrong, I'm pulling him out!
On Wednesday's we go to church for Royal Rangers and Missionettes (children's church programs). Today, Ben got 3 memory verses said for badges in Royal Rangers and Commander Dan marked off a bunch of mental, physical and social merits too. I think he got 2 badges this week. Hopefully he'll learn 2-3 more this week and finish up more. He's on his last year in Ranger Kids(K-2nd grade) and so he has to get all this finished up by July. Then he'll start Discovery Rangers (3rd-5th grades). Now that David is on dayshift, David will be helping in Royal Rangers (Commander David! hehehe, weird!). I have a class in Missionettes. They are "Stars" (3rd-5th grade). This week I had 3 new girls, which puts my class at 11! I like them, altho they are pretty rowdy. They are pretty tameable! Rachel had a hard time dealing with them, but we're doing well right now (probably cause I'm new). Rachel took the K-2nd graders.
We get home from church and Maialen proceeds to tell me about this field trip that is the next day and she doesn't want to go and about this club she doesn't want to be part of, but she feels like she has to, cause this teacher is making her do this stuff, and she doesn't understand any of this project she's suppose to do, yada yada. So, 930pm I call up this teacher to find out about the field trip and clarify the details of the project. She proceeds to tell me that "the girls" are too social, irresponsible, and unfocused. Um, I think she's smoking crack! Maialen and Carolina have excellent grades and work very hard! They are in National Honor Society and several clubs and sports! I spoke with her for about an hour about the girls. This woman is passive aggresive. The type that gives "slams" with a smile on her face. She's crazy. So, I told the girls to go in and see if they can't change classes. It's 4 weeks into the new semester, but maybe they could get into a gym class or something!
Thursday January 31st we had a snow day. We got about 5 inches of snow and school was closed. Maialen and Carolina took the kids outside and played in the snow and even shoveled!!! NICE!!!! I called in to speech and said we wouldn't be coming. I just didn't want to drive in the conditions and risk other drivers either for a one hour speech session. It was the only thing we had to do for the day. Ben's friends Mitch and Mikey were suppose to sleep over, but we postponed it for the next night instead.
Friday, February 1st, I took the kids to Stephanie's so I could go to a Dr. appt. On the way, Carolina called upset, said she got permission to change classes, and that there was a gym class with the soccer coash and she was really happy...but the crazy teacher (Mrs. Cartledge) wouldn't give permission to drop her class, saying that she didn't do the work and she wasn't allowing it. I was ticked! This woman told me that Carolina should try to drop it and that she was as far behind in this class as kids who didn't show up the first semester! Carolina took her first "F" in her life in this woman's class!!!! So after my DR. appt. I called Steph and Marc to ask if it would be alright if I stopped by the school to pitch a fit. Marc said it was fine. Things are good now. The vice principle over rode the class and changed her. Now we just have to keep an eye out for Maialen. If she is mean to Maialen or treats her badly, we'll get her switched too. (Different class than Carolina was in, but same crazy teacher).
I get to Marc and Steph's about 1pm and hung out til 2pm. Loaded the kids up and went to West High School to see Maialen cheer for a pep assembly. Shanndon sat there the whole time covering his ears. It was very loud. Ben and Christianna liked it tho. Then we came home and put kids down for nap, ate dinner and went back to Marc and Steph's to hang out. We took Butterscotch (our puppy) to socialize with thier puppies. It was so cute. He slept well that night! We get to bring our puppy home next Friday. He'll be 6 weeks old. His name is Sky. I think Butterscotch will have a good time having a buddy. We ended up bring Mitch home to sleep over and Mikey went with Jennie's son Jonathan to sleep over.
Saturday February 2nd, that's today. Another do nothing day. It's been so nice. We've all just been hanging out, playing computers and stuff. David went and got a better wireless router for the house, so our connection was faster and better. Wow, it's fast now! The router was in the basement and not doing well for living room and bedroom connectivity. Mitch was bored and wanted to go home, so when David got home from the store, he took Mitch home. The girls went out with friends to eat. Tonight, Maialen is going to the homecoming dance. She has been so happy all week. Its been homecoming week, and they've had different themes each day. Shes so peppy and spirited! It's cute how excited she is.
It'll be so boring around this house when the girls leave! :( The kids will be devastated! I don't know if I'll do this again. It's hard. I didn't expect to be so affected! I thought it'd almost be like having a border or something. Instead, I find myself caring deeply. I care that they like what I make for dinner and they have lots of variety. I care what they think of the family and the lifestyle. I care what's going on at school. I care about thier grades. I worry about thier well being and who they are hanging out with. UGH! Maialen wanted a family with a dog, it makes me want a dog! My family wanted a dog too, don't get me wrong, but I'm not much of a dog person. I'm a cat person. Just fill up thier food and water, scoop thier litter box and it's all good. They'll come to you when they want attention and they just lay around. Luckily there is enough people in this house to play with the dogs that it doesn't have to be me all the time! LOL.
Well, that was our week! We actually have a little busier week coming up. So I'll probably blog more. LOL. Welcome to February!
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